I don’t follow golf, but I recently read a commentary in the LA Times about Patrick Reed, who won the Masters this year. Apparently, he is estranged from his parents, who were escorted off the course at the U.S. Open several years ago by police, because Mr Reed simply didn’t want them there. They have been estranged since 2012, when he married his wife. His parents have never met their grandchildren…
The details are vague, but it was clear that the estrangement was precipitated by his marriage. What I have trouble understanding is why so many parents and grandparents are kicked to the curb, often for unknown or minor infractions, because of a spouse.
Reading the article brought up anger, but even though the anger I’m feeling is righteous, what can I do to change this terrible epidemic of alienation and estrangement? Our culture has become so fractured and people so disconnected that many of us are living lives of quiet desperation and loneliness, without family or a sense of belonging at the deepest level.
We have to do something — we’re dying out here. We’re hurting and feeling hopeless about our lives.
I think we need to start speaking up. We must talk about this cancer of alienation and estrangement. We must shine a light on it and expose it for the dangerous malignancy that it is.
We must find ways to live a good life, with or without our grown kids and grandkids. I know it’s cold comfort, but we must have the courage to let go of them, set healthy boundaries and find reasons to enjoy our lives. It’s time to stand up for ourselves and refuse any more bad treatment at the hands of our kids.
It’s time to heal our hearts.