Grandparents Denied Access to their Grandchildren

abandonment

Disrespect

Disrespect

One of the devastating side effects of being unfairly alienated from our adult child and grandchildren is being on the receiving end of disrespect, abuse, and cruelty. We are often maligned and accused of crimes we never committed.  Many years ago, I was put in […]

HOPE

HOPE

I recently had a discussion with a friend on the subject of hope. She has been estranged from her son for five years, but she is upbeat and lives a good life. She shared that, for her, hope meant managing expectations. I think most of us would […]

Another lonely Mother’s Day

Another lonely Mother’s Day

The wind is crowded with hungry ghosts tonight.   Sitting at my kitchen table, I warm my hands  on a mug of hot coffee.   My eyes cut to the mantle, to the photo, where  your laughter was once caught like a passing train.   […]

A Mother and Her Son

A Mother and Her Son

Recently, I attended a workshop held by a mother and her grown son. They talked about their Hawaiian ancestry and the philosophy of “Aloha,” which means both hello and goodbye. It also has a deeper meaning, which is peace, love, compassion and mercy. The relationship […]

Cold Comfort

Cold Comfort

I don’t follow golf, but I recently read a commentary in the LA Times about Patrick Reed, who won the Masters this year. Apparently, he is estranged from his parents, who were escorted off the course at the U.S. Open several years ago by police, […]

Christmas Eve

Christmas Eve

Some say that ever ‘gainst that season comes Whereon our Savior’s birth is celebrated, The bird of dawning singeth all night long. And then, they say, no spirit dare abroad, The nights are wholesome, then no planets strike, No fairy takes nor witch hath power […]

Doing My Best

Doing My Best

The longer this strange and terrible estrangement goes on, the more blind corners and hairpin turns I come up against. I think I’m doing ok, then I receive a video or see a picture and I feel like I’m skidding off the road into a […]

Talking Out Loud

Talking Out Loud

This first morning of spring, as I walked along a mountain trail, admiring the black-eyed-susans flowering prolifically down the hills, I began to talk out loud. Luckily, there was no one else about, so I felt free to speak as loudly as I wanted. It […]

Past, Present and Future

Past, Present and Future

I’m sitting here at my desk, listening to the distant rumble of thunder. While looking out the window at the darkening sky, I am jolted from my reverie by the sudden, intrusive grind of an electric saw. There have been numerous times when I have […]

Endings and New Beginnings

Endings and New Beginnings

Last night, sitting on my deck, I watched the evening settle in over wildflowers, trees, and rooftops. As the sky darkened and shadows lengthened, fireflies began to twinkle. Day was done. Everything ends, we know this. The relationship with my daughter-in-law ended. The easy, loving relationship […]