Grandparents Denied Access to their Grandchildren

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Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Every year at this time, I receive correspondences from estranged parents and grandparents who express sadness about missing their adult children and grandchildren at Thanksgiving. One estranged grandmother wrote that she found herself resenting all the ‘happy, happy people and their happy families.” Her perception […]

Finding Balance

Finding Balance

We all know that our lives can change in a split second, yet we often go through our days feeling that life unfolds in a straight line. But we know on a deep level that some kink will eventually challenge us to wake up and […]

Cutting the Ties that Bind

Cutting the Ties that Bind

We are all born with an umbilical cord that attaches us to our mother. Although it is cut immediately after birth, there is an invisible cord connecting mother and child resulting in symbiosis. For many, this invisible cord connects mother and child for years, if […]

Disrespect

Disrespect

One of the devastating side effects of being unfairly alienated from our adult child and grandchildren is being on the receiving end of disrespect, abuse, and cruelty. We are often maligned and accused of crimes we never committed.  Many years ago, I was put in […]

HOPE

HOPE

I recently had a discussion with a friend on the subject of hope. She has been estranged from her son for five years, but she is upbeat and lives a good life. She shared that, for her, hope meant managing expectations. I think most of us would […]

A Healthy Brain

A Healthy Brain

Recently, I’ve become concerned about what the effects of ongoing grief and depression have had on my brain. I have experienced so much trauma, heartache, abuse and betrayal over the course of my life that it feels like sometimes I am unable to cope and […]

A Mother and Her Son

A Mother and Her Son

Recently, I attended a workshop held by a mother and her grown son. They talked about their Hawaiian ancestry and the philosophy of “Aloha,” which means both hello and goodbye. It also has a deeper meaning, which is peace, love, compassion and mercy. The relationship […]

Cold Comfort

Cold Comfort

I don’t follow golf, but I recently read a commentary in the LA Times about Patrick Reed, who won the Masters this year. Apparently, he is estranged from his parents, who were escorted off the course at the U.S. Open several years ago by police, […]

Reverence

Reverence

As I walked my dog this afternoon, I realized that I too often take the beauty around me for granted. We walked along a cliff and watched the waves as the sun slowly set over the ocean. It was sublime. I experienced a sense of […]

Keeping it Simple

Keeping it Simple

“What do you like doing best in the world, Pooh? [asked Christopher Robin]… “What I like best in the whole world is Me and Piglet going to see You, and You saying ‘What about a little something?’ and Me saying, ‘Well, I shouldn’t mind a […]