A New Year

A New Year

As 2020 draws to an end, many people are breathing a sigh of relief. True, the year is ending, but many problems will follow us into the new year. 2020 was definitely a year of unprecedented upheaval, stress, challenges and heartbreak. But, as many challenges 

MOVING ON

MOVING ON

I woke up this morning feeling lighter, braver, more optimistic. I don’t really know why. I’ve been dealing with moving to another state, feeling a lot of anxiety and fear about the future (a complete waste of time), healing from a recent tooth extraction (totally 

Can’t Sleep

Can’t Sleep

I’m in the process of moving from the west coast to the east coast. I must say, moving is not for the faint-hearted. I have been experiencing panic attacks, worry, fear, and debilitating fatigue. I’m getting too old for this! I woke up this morning 

Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day

It’s that time of year when all across our nation, mothers are celebrated, honored and loved. Except for those who aren’t… For me, Mother’s Day is the most difficult holiday, for obvious reasons. The other holidays spent without my family are no fun either, but 

Lucky

Lucky

I met a woman while shopping recently. At one point during our conversation, I asked her if she had kids. She said “Nope!”  to which I replied, “Lucky you!”  To which she responded, “I hear that a lot!” My response surprised me, as I have 

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Every year at this time, I receive correspondences from estranged parents and grandparents who express sadness about missing their adult children and grandchildren at Thanksgiving. One estranged grandmother wrote that she found herself resenting all the ‘happy, happy people and their happy families.” Her perception 

Finding Balance

Finding Balance

We all know that our lives can change in a split second, yet we often go through our days feeling that life unfolds in a straight line. But we know on a deep level that some kink will eventually challenge us to wake up and 

Cutting the Ties that Bind

Cutting the Ties that Bind

We are all born with an umbilical cord that attaches us to our mother. Although it is cut immediately after birth, there is an invisible cord connecting mother and child resulting in symbiosis. For many, this invisible cord connects mother and child for years, if 

Disrespect

Disrespect

One of the devastating side effects of being unfairly alienated from our adult child and grandchildren is being on the receiving end of disrespect, abuse, and cruelty. We are often maligned and accused of crimes we never committed.  Many years ago, I was put in 

HOPE

HOPE

I recently had a discussion with a friend on the subject of hope. She has been estranged from her son for five years, but she is upbeat and lives a good life. She shared that, for her, hope meant managing expectations. I think most of us would