Grandparents Denied Access to their Grandchildren

alienation

Cutting the Ties that Bind

Cutting the Ties that Bind

We are all born with an umbilical cord that attaches us to our mother. Although it is cut immediately after birth, there is an invisible cord connecting mother and child resulting in symbiosis. For many, this invisible cord connects mother and child for years, if […]

Disrespect

Disrespect

One of the devastating side effects of being unfairly alienated from our adult child and grandchildren is being on the receiving end of disrespect, abuse, and cruelty. We are often maligned and accused of crimes we never committed.  Many years ago, I was put in […]

HOPE

HOPE

I recently had a discussion with a friend on the subject of hope. She has been estranged from her son for five years, but she is upbeat and lives a good life. She shared that, for her, hope meant managing expectations. I think most of us would […]

A Healthy Brain

A Healthy Brain

Recently, I’ve become concerned about what the effects of ongoing grief and depression have had on my brain. I have experienced so much trauma, heartache, abuse and betrayal over the course of my life that it feels like sometimes I am unable to cope and […]

A Mother and Her Son

A Mother and Her Son

Recently, I attended a workshop held by a mother and her grown son. They talked about their Hawaiian ancestry and the philosophy of “Aloha,” which means both hello and goodbye. It also has a deeper meaning, which is peace, love, compassion and mercy. The relationship […]

Cold Comfort

Cold Comfort

I don’t follow golf, but I recently read a commentary in the LA Times about Patrick Reed, who won the Masters this year. Apparently, he is estranged from his parents, who were escorted off the course at the U.S. Open several years ago by police, […]

Christmas Eve

Christmas Eve

Some say that ever ‘gainst that season comes Whereon our Savior’s birth is celebrated, The bird of dawning singeth all night long. And then, they say, no spirit dare abroad, The nights are wholesome, then no planets strike, No fairy takes nor witch hath power […]

If I Ever See My Grandkids Again

If I Ever See My Grandkids Again

I dream of seeing my grandchildren again. It has been almost nine years now, and they are all but strangers to me. I have had so many fantasies and scenarios in my mind about how a reunion would go down. After embracing them and feeling […]

Fourth of July Forgiveness

Fourth of July Forgiveness

It’s the fourth of July and people are at picnics, beaches, lakes and parks. I see people riding  bikes, families roasting marshmallows in fire pits on the beach, kids running in circles waving red, white and blue pinwheels. It is a holiday made for families. […]

There Once Was a Mother

There Once Was a Mother

There once was a mother who gave birth to a baby with red hair. She sang to him, cradled and rocked him, and thanked God for the miracle of him. As he grew, their time together was easy and loving. His eyes lit up when […]