Grandparents Denied Access to their Grandchildren

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The Gift of Forgiveness

The Gift of Forgiveness

I want to talk more about forgiveness. It is a topic that deserves a good deal of attention and thought. It’s tough to forgive – especially when we’ve been deeply hurt, betrayed, lied to, lied about or abused. It takes time to forgive. It takes […]

Alone

Alone

I’ve always liked having time for myself, to do what I want and just enjoy my own company. During those times, I often feel a creative urge to write, to compose or just listen to music and daydream. It’s true that being alone is where […]

Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day

It’s that time of year when all across our nation, mothers are celebrated, honored and loved. Except for those who aren’t… For me, Mother’s Day is the most difficult holiday, for obvious reasons. The other holidays spent without my family are no fun either, but […]

Christmas Eve

Christmas Eve

Some say that ever ‘gainst that season comes Whereon our Savior’s birth is celebrated, The bird of dawning singeth all night long. And then, they say, no spirit dare abroad, The nights are wholesome, then no planets strike, No fairy takes nor witch hath power […]

Mother’s Day Hangover

Mother’s Day Hangover

Boy oh boy, what a pain in the neck Mother’s Day is for me. After a restless night’s sleep, I woke up with a pit in my stomach and a pain in my heart. Sudden remembering: Mother’s Day. Again. Everywhere I looked, I saw men […]

Mother’s Day Comes ‘Round Again

Mother’s Day Comes ‘Round Again

Mother’s Day. Not exactly my favorite holiday. I spend most of the time wondering if I’ll hear from my son – will he text, call even? Most years now, I receive a nod in the form of a brief text, which is fine, but a […]

Deciding to Be Happy

Deciding to Be Happy

I just finished wrapping Christmas presents. I turned on holiday music, spread out all materials, cards and gifts and got to work.. I spent a lot of time shopping for and trying to figure out what on earth to get my grandchildren. I will mail […]

Emotional Triggers

Emotional Triggers

Lately, many people want to tell me about, show me pictures of and/or talk about their wonderful, adorable grandchildren. I sit there, on the verge of a primal scream, as they whip out their phones or devices and start scrolling for pictures, all the while […]

It Isn’t Black or White

It Isn’t Black or White

Why is it so difficult to let go? How do I make peace with being a virtual stranger to my grandkids? Why, even in the face of indefensible abuse, can’t I make a clean break? Recently, I vowed to ‘walk away’ from the insanity of […]

Changing Your Paradigm

Changing Your Paradigm

There is an ever-increasing number of resources on the subject of parental and grandparental estrangement. Several years ago, when I was in the depths of despair, I could find very little on the subject. Now there are scattered support groups, webinars, periodicals and books that […]