Deciding to Be Happy

Deciding to Be Happy

I just finished wrapping Christmas presents. I turned on holiday music, spread out all materials, cards and gifts and got to work.. I spent a lot of time shopping for and trying to figure out what on earth to get my grandchildren. I will mail…

Emotional Triggers

Emotional Triggers

Lately, many people want to tell me about, show me pictures of and/or talk about their wonderful, adorable grandchildren. I sit there, on the verge of a primal scream, as they whip out their phones or devices and start scrolling for pictures, all the while…

It Isn’t Black or White

It Isn’t Black or White

Why is it so difficult to let go? How do I make peace with being a virtual stranger to my grandkids? Why, even in the face of indefensible abuse, can’t I make a clean break? Recently, I vowed to ‘walk away’ from the insanity of…

Changing the Paradigm

Changing the Paradigm

There is an ever-increasing number of resources on the subject of parental and grandparental estrangement. Several years ago, when I was in the depths of despair, I could find very little on the subject. Now there are scattered support groups, webinars, periodicals and books that…

Holidays

Holidays

Well, the holiday season has begun. There is a hole in my heart, yes. Everyday, I try to fill this hole. In the past, when the holidays arrived, I felt like I was just putting a finger in the dyke. But this year I’m determined…

My Story

My Story

The day my son got married, I felt like I was having an out of body experience. From all appearances, it was a lovely, lavish wedding, but there was an undercurrent that I couldn’t identify. At the reception, my family and I were directed to…