Twisties

Twisties

Life is certainly interesting these days! By now, most people know about and have an opinion about gymnast Simone Bile’s decision to withdraw from the 2020 Olympic competition. Some say that this was an act of self-indulgence, that she is a quitter and a big…

Mother’s Day and Tahlequah the Whale

Mother’s Day and Tahlequah the Whale

Mother’s Day is a holiday driven by sentimentality and commerce. Although it purports to celebrate all mothers, the holiday is completely disconnected from the reality of motherhood. In many cases, motherhood is fraught with sorrow, hurt, anger, neglect, abuse, disrespect, despair, worry, exhaustion, heartbreak, and…

Forbearance

Forbearance

The dictionary defines forbearance as “abstaining from the enforcement of a right.” Forbearance is quiet, patient and knowing. It refrains from pushing too hard, especially when it would be fruitless. It is noble in its practice of self-restraint.  This excerpt from a poem, called “Forbearance”…

A 74th Birthday

A 74th Birthday

Man struggles to find life outside himself, unaware that the life he is seeking is within him.  Kahlil Gabran Everyone asks me what I’m doing today on my birthday. In the past, my natal day would be a flurry of activity. I often looked to…

Longing for Belonging

Longing for Belonging

Ever since I was a child, I’ve searched for my true family, my tribe, my place in the world. I’ve yearned for a loving fortress to protect me from harm, and a place where I could find safety and sustenance. I’ve had many relationships, friendships,…

Holidays in the Time of COVID 19

Holidays in the Time of COVID 19

The holidays are here and many of us are trying desperately to hold on to and honor our traditions. We’re planning socially distanced get togethers, keeping the number of guests small, requiring masks when not eating or drinking. We hope to make lovely memories, despite…

Hope Lite

Hope Lite

Hello, readers! I’ve decided to start writing again. I find that ongoing estrangement has many facets and new, sometimes unwelcome depths and challenges. It’s the first day of fall, the Equinox. I’m sitting outside on my deck watching tropical birds fly over the lake, perching…

Goodbye for Now

Goodbye for Now

I started writing this blog about eleven years ago, when I was in the throes of the early and devastating events which ultimately led to estrangement and alienation from my son and four grandchildren. This blog has been my friend, my refuge, my safe place…

Boundaries

Boundaries

I’ve experienced some hard lessons lately. Within one month, I was swindled by a con man, hustled by a greedy real estate agent, lied to by people I care about, hurt by a friend, and cheated out of money owed me. And that’s just the half…

Lucky

Lucky

I met a woman while shopping recently. At one point during our conversation, I asked her if she had kids. She said “Nope!”  to which I replied, “Lucky you!”  To which she responded, “I hear that a lot!” My response surprised me, as I have…