Grandparents Denied Access to their Grandchildren

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Easter

Easter

Every year when I was a child, my mother took me shopping for a new Easter outfit and, every year, I remember her saying that she hoped that Easter Sunday would be a warm day. In keeping with her optimism, she selected a light dress […]

Christmas Eve

Christmas Eve

Some say that ever ‘gainst that season comes Whereon our Savior’s birth is celebrated, The bird of dawning singeth all night long. And then, they say, no spirit dare abroad, The nights are wholesome, then no planets strike, No fairy takes nor witch hath power […]

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Every year at this time, I receive correspondences from estranged parents and grandparents who express sadness about missing their adult children and grandchildren at Thanksgiving. One estranged grandmother wrote that she found herself resenting all the ‘happy, happy people and their happy families.” Her perception […]

Lessons My Dog Taught Me About Play

Lessons My Dog Taught Me About Play

When was the last time you rode a bike, drew a picture, played cards with friends, swung on a swing, giggled, juggled, bought a yo-yo, walked barefoot on the beach, roasted marshmallows, skipped down the street, wore a silly hat to the grocery store…. ? […]

Doing My Best

Doing My Best

The longer this strange and terrible estrangement goes on, the more blind corners and hairpin turns I come up against. I think I’m doing ok, then I receive a video or see a picture and I feel like I’m skidding off the road into a […]

Talking Out Loud

Talking Out Loud

This first morning of spring, as I walked along a mountain trail, admiring the black-eyed-susans flowering prolifically down the hills, I began to talk out loud. Luckily, there was no one else about, so I felt free to speak as loudly as I wanted. It […]

Deciding to Be Happy

Deciding to Be Happy

I just finished wrapping Christmas presents. I turned on holiday music, spread out all materials, cards and gifts and got to work.. I spent a lot of time shopping for and trying to figure out what on earth to get my grandchildren. I will mail […]

Gratitude

Gratitude

I’ve been sick lately and I am feeling a great deal of gratitude for pharmaceuticals because without them, it would have been much more difficult. I’m sure that there is an underlying emotional component to illness. It felt a bit like I was drowning this […]

Past, Present and Future

Past, Present and Future

I’m sitting here at my desk, listening to the distant rumble of thunder. While looking out the window at the darkening sky, I am jolted from my reverie by the sudden, intrusive grind of an electric saw. There have been numerous times when I have […]

Recovering My Voice

Recovering My Voice

The following excerpt from ‘The Journey’ by Mary Oliver is apropos of the estrangement I have been experiencing for over six years. I am on a ‘journey,’ one where I struggle to find my voice again as I continue to work on silencing the internal […]